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  • Positive thinking: My 3 steps to practicing positive thinking

    Positive thinking to me simply means focusing on a better outcome in any given situation. For example, when you find yourself in difficult circumstances that you cannot control, you can either choose to think positive or negative. For instance, a few days ago, I woke up, got my daughter ready for the kindergarten, made breakfast for her and my husband, 30 minutes later they both left. So I tided up a bit, took a shower, got dressed, made myself breakfast, sat down to eat, my typical morning routine. Then I picked up my phone and the first app I clicked on was my Instagram. It turned out that I’ve lost 20 followers since the previous night. Immediately my heart breaks, I began thinking what I was doing wrong, maybe I should just delete the app, what’s the point anyway, every one it’s growing but not me blah blah blah blah. My husband calls me a thinker, according to him, when something starts bothering me, I really go deep in it. So for a while, I have been doing a lot of research about positive thinking and how I could start focusing on the positives instead of the negatives. Sometimes it’s had to see what’s right in front of you, all the good things you have going for you. You neglect all the positives things in your life by choosing to focus on the challenges. a positive mindset doesn’t necessarily mean you are unaware of how challenging the situation you’re in is or that you are living in a land of rainbows and unicorns, It simply means you are choosing to look at the bright side of that situation and say it could be worse. So after much research, these are the three steps that I have come up with and have been practicing to help shift my mind from those negative what-ifs to replacing them with positives ones.

    1. Start recognizing your negative thoughts when they come, and this can be done by noticing the patterns. I recall getting 20 missed phone calls from my sister in Nigeria and when I later tried to call her back she didn’t answer, and I had to wait for hours for her to respond. Soon after my mind began to play tricks on me, I began thinking about the worst possible reasons she’s called 20 times. Maybe someone died, maybe my mom fell ill, maybe this or maybe that. The funny thing was, I never for once thought anything positive, but later it turned out she was having an argument with a friend and she wanted my opinion on the matter. This is just a simple example of how tricky the mind can be if you let it. That’s why being aware of the negativity in your own mind will help you replace negative thoughts with positive ones.

    2. Saying no to my negative thoughts. Now that I have started recognizing the patterns of my thoughts, I can now start saying no to them. I’ve heard some people say that when they start getting negative thoughts, they talk to themselves quietly by saying no! I have been practicing this and it seems to work somehow. However, what I’ve realized is that it gradually goes away, or it becomes easier to push away.

    3. Realizing that I am not my own thoughts because I can choose which thoughts I want to focus on. A good example is when my mind tells me that someone else is better than me, and I believe it or dwell on it for a little while, this will eventually lead to me being depressed or sad because I am now concentrating only on that thought which isn’t true. That’s the reason I believe it’s important we start realizing that we can choose which thoughts we want to focus on.

    It all starts with a thought, what you think is what you act upon, and what you act upon eventually becomes your reality in some sense.

    I hope you find these 3 steps interesting, if you have any suggestions, I would be more than happy to hear it.

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    36 Comments

    1. January 13, 2020 / 1:07 pm

      I love this! I always try to focus on positive thinking. It takes less energy than thinking negatively all the time.

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 13, 2020 / 1:43 pm

        You are absolutely right babes. Thanks for the love!

    2. January 13, 2020 / 5:21 pm

      It’s nice when I read a post like this because it immediately gives me positivism and happiness. Thanks for inspiring me to love me.

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 14, 2020 / 3:44 pm

        Thank you for stopping by šŸ™‚

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 14, 2020 / 3:44 pm

        Yes, that’s completely through.

    3. January 13, 2020 / 8:06 pm

      Wonderful advice. I’ve become much better at noticing, and then batting away negative thoughts. Still lots of work to do, but I’ve been nailing it so far!

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 14, 2020 / 3:43 pm

        Good for you babes, That’s so nice to hear šŸ™‚

    4. Marie
      January 14, 2020 / 1:05 am

      Yes, you have to keep your mind on positive thinking! But sometimes it’s so hard, isn’t it? You’ve got this though! Just keep on going and don’t quit even if you want to. So many people quit just before they would have succeeded.

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 14, 2020 / 3:42 pm

        Your advice is well-received sweetheart, thank you :).

    5. January 14, 2020 / 1:14 am

      I worry I’m more like you – in that I think too much and do think the worst. 20 missed calls from my sister would totally make me worry about my mom! And I hate losing IG followers. Hate it.
      I love your ideas. I do agree. We are not our thoughts, and also, we can reframe our thoughts and patterns.

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 14, 2020 / 3:39 pm

        Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts babe, and I absolutely agree with you.

    6. January 14, 2020 / 1:58 am

      It’s crazy how your brain immediately goes to the negative. When I’m feeling negative about something small, I try to think of all the good things. It’s harder with big things.

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 14, 2020 / 3:37 pm

        You are so right.

    7. January 14, 2020 / 2:28 am

      I am struggling SO HARD to be positive right now, so this is much needed for me. Thanks so much for sharing this with all of us!

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 14, 2020 / 3:36 pm

        YOu’re welcome, sweetheart. We are all in this together šŸ™‚

    8. Jessica Joachim
      January 14, 2020 / 2:57 am

      I completely believe in the power of positive thought. If you surround yourself with positive energy and maintain that outlook then good things will happen, or you will at least be able to see the good in all situations.

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 14, 2020 / 3:35 pm

        That’s absolutely true! Thank you.

    9. January 14, 2020 / 10:06 am

      Keep up the positive energy! We ar all guilty of thinking negative and need that reminder!

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 14, 2020 / 3:34 pm

        Thank you šŸ™‚

    10. January 14, 2020 / 3:57 pm

      Thinking and being positive is so important. We all need that reminder every now and then

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 15, 2020 / 4:54 pm

        OH, yes we do.

    11. Candace
      January 14, 2020 / 4:31 pm

      This is absolutely true. Redirecting your energy like this can literally change your life! I definitely go down the negative rabbit hole sometimes. But, if I focus my energy elsewhere and positively, everything improves!

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 15, 2020 / 4:29 pm

        That’s so true!

    12. Candace Hampton
      January 14, 2020 / 4:32 pm

      I love this. Changing your mindset can improve your entire life, no doubt. Training your brain to do this definitely takes work though! Sticking with it is so worth it.

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 15, 2020 / 4:26 pm

        Completely agree. The reward is definitely worth it.

    13. January 14, 2020 / 5:34 pm

      Positive thinking is so powerful. It is such a great secret to overcoming perceived obstacles and truly achieving your goals.

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 15, 2020 / 4:24 pm

        Yes, absolutely šŸ™‚

    14. January 14, 2020 / 8:41 pm

      I need to think more positive. To worry less. Surround myself with positive people, that could help. Reading positive articles like this one is also helping!

    15. Lily
      January 14, 2020 / 10:11 pm

      I really resonated with this post! Yes we should all have the ability to shift those negative thoughts even if it seems hard.

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 15, 2020 / 4:24 pm

        Yes, we do šŸ™‚

    16. nataliawiatr
      January 15, 2020 / 6:58 pm

      Yes! Yes! Yes! The power of positive thinking! I found rewriting your recurring negative thought as new positive ones the most powerful tool here. When my obstetrician said I may have to go to hospital for 3 days to make sure my baby’s lungs are strong enough in case of premature labor, I thought about my toddler who has never been away from me for such a long time. But then I thought, he will have to deal with it anyway when I go there to give birth to his sister, so this time might be a good preparation for him. He will see that even though mommy was away, she came back and next time will be less stressful.

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 16, 2020 / 4:10 pm

        Oh hey, thanks for sharing, I appreciate it.

    17. elkassih
      January 15, 2020 / 8:28 pm

      Yes you must remain optimistic as much as you in this wonderful time of your life! Thanks for sharing.

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 16, 2020 / 4:11 pm

        Thank you šŸ™‚

      • gracejackobsen
        Author
        January 16, 2020 / 4:15 pm

        You’re welcome. Thank you šŸ™‚

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